The Boundaries of Friendship


We all have them… the friends whose lives start to encroach too much on our own moral compass that it becomes difficult to maintain those relationships. When is it time to let go? When is it time to say enough is enough and phase them out of your lives because of their decisions?

I find it difficult at 25 to make these distinctions. There are some people who make life decisions and you are too close to the situation to be able to remove your emotions, whatever they be, from their affairs.

It’s not a “mind your own business” issue… it’s an “I care too much about these people to watch them put themselves in danger and the pain is turning into anger and becoming too great to maintain this relationship.”

This is, however, a double edged sword.

I have two pieces to this… Approach with compassion or make the decision that this kind of support of these kind of poor, and rather selfish, choices cannot go on any longer and there must be some distinction in my friendship to indicate that as long as X is happening we cannot maintain a friendship.

It’s daunting so I have difficulty coming to a conclusion on what to do… but I feel like even if I do nothing – the decision will most likely in the end be made for me, whether it be by the friendship running it’s natural course or by abrupt severance.

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